As an anti-oppression consultant, it is my job to cultivate a humble and thoughtful response in my White clients around statements of racism and being "racist." When I am done working with a school, company, or organization I want the White people there to be able to handle discussions of racism and implications of being "racist" without getting defensive. I want their internal dialogue to be one of grace and curiosity because being racist is not always about being a bad person. It is most often about benefitting from a system that fundamentally deems White folks as safer, smarter, more beautiful, more capable, harder working, cleaner, better, and normal. One only becomes intentionally complicit with racism when s/he remains defensive, rejects curiosity, refuses to listen, and demands to be made comfortable.